Breastfeeding is a natural and beautiful way to nourish our babies. It provides them with all the essential nutrients they need to grow and thrive, while also creating a special bond between mother and child. However, despite the numerous benefits of breastfeeding, there is still a stigma surrounding it, especially when it comes to extended breastfeeding.
Recently, fashion designer Karen Millen made some controversial comments on a TV show, suggesting that breastfeeding a three-year-old is “selfish” and “not good emotionally” for the child. As a mother who has breastfed two children, I can confidently say that her statements are completely false and harmful.
Breastfeeding has long-term benefits for babies, lasting right into adulthood. The NHS states that “any amount of breast milk has a positive effect” and the longer a mother breastfeeds, the longer the protection lasts and the greater the benefits. Breastfeeding can reduce a baby’s risk of infections, diarrhoea, and vomiting, as well as sudden infant death syndrome (SIDS), obesity, and cardiovascular disease in adulthood.
The World Health Organization also recognizes breastfeeding as one of the most effective ways to ensure child health and survival. Breastmilk provides all the energy and nutrients babies need for the first months of life, and in the second half of the first year, it can provide up to half or more of a child’s nutritional needs. Even in the second year of life, breastmilk can provide up to one third of a child’s nutritional requirements. These facts alone prove that breastfeeding beyond six months is not only beneficial but also necessary for a child’s health and well-being.
But what about the emotional impact of extended breastfeeding? According to the American Academy of Family Physicians (AAFP), there is no evidence that extended breastfeeding is harmful to either the parent or the child. In fact, breastfeeding can have a positive impact on a child’s emotional development. It provides them with a sense of security and comfort, and helps them develop a strong attachment to their mother.
Yet, Karen Millen’s comments suggest that extended breastfeeding is “not normal” and can lead to emotional damage for the child. This is simply not true. Breastfeeding is a natural and instinctive act for both mother and child. It is a way for a mother to nourish and comfort her child, and there is nothing abnormal or harmful about it.
The judgement and stigma surrounding extended breastfeeding are not only hurtful but also unhelpful. It adds to the already existing pressure and expectations placed on mothers. Breastfeeding is a personal choice, and every mother should be able to make that choice without fear of being shamed or judged.
I have personally experienced the stigma surrounding extended breastfeeding. I have been told that my child is “too old” to breastfeed, that I am “spoiling” them, and that I am creating an “addiction” to my breast. These comments are not only hurtful but also completely unfounded. Breastfeeding is not a selfish act, it is a selfless act of love and care for our children.
It is time to break the stigma surrounding extended breastfeeding. Mothers should not have to fear being shamed or judged for choosing to breastfeed their child beyond six months. It is a personal decision, and every mother knows what is best for her child.
Karen Millen has since apologized for her comments, stating that her intention was not to upset anyone and that she respects women’s choices. While her apology is appreciated, it is important to recognize the impact of her words and the harm they can cause. As a society, we need to support and empower mothers, not shame and judge them.
To all the mothers who have faced criticism for breastfeeding their child beyond six months, know that you are not alone. You are not selfish, you are not creating an addiction, and you are not ruining your child emotionally. You are simply doing what is best for your child, and that is something to be celebrated and supported.
Breastfeeding is a beautiful and natural act that should be celebrated and encouraged. It is time to end the stigma and support all mothers in their breastfeeding journey, whether it lasts for six months, one year, or beyond. Let us focus on the well-being of our children and the bond between mother and child, rather than passing judgement and spreading false information. Breastfeeding is a gift, and we should all be grateful for the mothers who choose to give it to their children.
