When we think of unforgettable sex, it’s usually in a positive light. It’s a compliment to the experience and the person we shared it with. But for Redditor Express_Resolve_7267, unforgettable sex has a different meaning. In a baffled sense, she took to r/AmIOverreacting to share her haunting experience: her partner vaped mid-sex. This raises the question: “Am I Overreacting?” As a licensed sexologist, couples therapist, and author at Passionerad.se, Sofie Roos has some advice on how to handle this situation.
The original poster (OP) met a man (34) on holiday and they hit it off instantly. They went on to have “10/10” sex, but during a recent session, something unexpected happened. The man stopped mid-thrust and the OP looked back to see him hitting his lemon-flavoured vape. As a vaper herself, she didn’t judge him for the habit, but she had never experienced this kind of interruption before. She says she’s been “fantasising about the possibility of seeing where things could go between us,” but now she’s “spiralling” about his actions. She wonders if it’s a sign that he’s not really present, disrespectful, or just too comfortable. She even questions what it says about how he sees her or values the experience.
Roos says that whether this move is acceptable or not completely depends on the relationship dynamic. If both partners are relaxed and playful about it, then it can be considered “fully okay.” But if one partner feels humiliated or hurt, then it’s not acceptable. In this scenario, it’s easy to feel objectified, de-prioritized, and not seen. It’s a humiliating experience for most people.
However, the sexologist believes that this is not an isolated incident. She says that it’s “not too unlikely” to find yourself in a situation like this. If it happens to you, it’s essential to talk about it with your partner. Roos advises sitting down and explaining how it made you feel and why. It’s vital to communicate openly and respectfully with your partner. Let them give their perspective and try to understand each other’s side. It may also help to come up with a compromise that works for both partners. For example, maybe vaping during sex is a dealbreaker, but letting your partner vape in bed after is acceptable.
In the end, it’s about finding a balance that works for both partners. Roos says that most people would find mid-coitus vape hits a major turn-off. It’s easy to feel objectified and not seen in that scenario. But it’s also essential to remember that everyone has different boundaries and comfort levels. Communication is key in any relationship, especially when it comes to sex.
So, what can we take away from this unforgettable experience? It’s crucial to communicate openly and respectfully with your partner. If something makes you uncomfortable, speak up and find a compromise that works for both of you. And most importantly, don’t be afraid to have fun and be playful in the bedroom. But always be mindful and respectful of your partner’s boundaries and comfort levels.
In the end, it’s up to the individuals involved to decide what is acceptable in their relationship. But as for the OP, she has since shared in an edit that she did accept a hit of his vape at the time and even found the flavor to be quite enjoyable. So, maybe this experience wasn’t as unforgettable as she initially thought. It’s all about perspective and communication.
